Writing this column wasn’t easy. I’ve experienced deep pain: losing my parents, watching my husband wait for a heart transplant, and eventually grieving his passing. During those moments, I was fortunate to have the support of family, friends, and co-workers. That support helped me navigate situational depression. But for those suffering from clinical depression, the pain can feel unbearable and isolating without professional help.
When I’m overwhelmed, I pray to God for guidance. I talk to someone I trust. I also walk to clear my head or read to quiet my mind. Everyone copes differently.
September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, and as this magazine reaches you, the topic of mental health feels especially urgent. Recently, a close friend — someone who always smiled despite facing immense stress — came to me looking visibly distressed. They had just lost their young son-in-law, were dealing with serious health issues, and were also the primary caregiver for a parent in palliative care.
We sat for an hour as they poured out their heart and cried. I felt honored they trusted me enough to be vulnerable. Thankfully, they had already started therapy. Still, they said words that raised concern: “I’m tired, I’m angry, and I feel dangerous.” I gently asked if they had thoughts of harming themselves or anyone else. They said no — they just wanted the pain to stop.
I encouraged them to continue therapy and to reach out to the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline if those feelings worsened. They’d applied for FMLA to take time off work. As the sole income earner, they’re under enormous pressure: caring for a sick parent, supporting a daughter and granddaughter moving back in, and now planning a funeral — with no life insurance coverage.
The son-in-law worked in food service and never received enough hours to qualify for benefits. His sudden passing left a financial and emotional void.
Several co-workers and I continue to check on our friend regularly. We remind them they are not alone, and encourage them to talk — to a therapist, to us, to anyone who can help carry the weight.
Sadly, this story isn’t unique. Many people silently carry heavy burdens. If someone around you is struggling, listen with compassion. Sometimes, simply being present is all they need. If you’re ever concerned for their safety, don’t hesitate — refer them to 988.